Hey guys, it's been a while, thought I'd update.
So I've told y'all about my mom before, a head at the local Husseiniya since its inception ~7 years ago, read countless books by Tijani and others, watches and supports nearly all Shia TV channels, told me 'questioning deen will bring me to hell', yelling at me, made up fake stories about 'people meeting Wahabis', made fun of Sunni ulema, etc a long time ago. Well Alhamdulillah she's changed alot!.
The most shocking thing was when we were talking about deen and she told me 2 days ago "How can I curse Abu Bakr and Omar when they're better then me and have done good work for Islam, while I have done nothing." She openly says that mutah is haraam and "Sunnis are correct on this issue" and now encourages me to go to the Sunni masjid after seeing that the people there are better influences on me then in the Shia center (she wants me to be a teacher there to kids). She caught me at the airport folding my hands in salaat and told me a few days later at home "I know you cross them when you pray in school as well" without getting mad. I always thought she was a hopeless case, but she's changed so much in 2 years that I can't believe it! She doesn't even allow my dad to curse anymore. Before if I said anything or she asked me something and I answered 'wrong', she'd yell and lecture about Ghadeer or something, but now she openly says (along with me) that "Certain (Shia) doctrines are wrong and don't make sense." She used to get mad at me if I read 'Sunnat Muakkata' prayers, because it's a 'Sunni thing', but now leaves me alone. She used to say that 'Aliun Waliullah' in the azan defines us, but now doesn't say it!
My dad is a different case, he proudly believes in tahrif, hates Sahaba ra, blames Sunnis for everything, etc (unless Sunni family/friends are in the house or he's talking about his friends). What's amazing is even with all these influences (husband, relatives, Shia TV channels, always at the Husseiniya listening and talking with the mullah, reading countless 'Sunni rebuttal' books, etc), my mom doesn't accept much of what they say and only 5 minutes of me talking with her makes a big difference. She told me later that She will 'investigate' for herself and will throw away any beliefs that are wrong.
What I feel has made a difference with my mom occurred 2 ways, through me and herself. Firstly, she's always read lots of Quran, but never translation, now she's doing both and has noticed in her Shia translation that important topics like "Imamate, Khums, Ahl Bayt" never show up, but things like "Salaat, Zakaat, Tawhid, being good, etc" come up alot! With me, everytime she has a claim or I bring up a topic, I easily answer, especially now after 2 years, with a valid rebuttal that she can't deny. She's the kind of person who has all her faith in mullahs, and when my local mullah says something then at home I prove her otherwise, her world is turned upsidedown and if 'the mullah is wrong on core topics, then anything can be wrong.' Such as showing from sistani.org that 'Aliun Waliullah' isn't a part of the azan, the Prophet (saw) had 4 daughters from, 2 married Uthmaan (ra) and the different excuses Shias come up with, age of Ayesha (ra), enmity Shias have for Sahaba (ra), comparing the Shia narration of compilation of Quran with the Sunni, discussing logic, and maybe a few other things. A problem my mom has is why Shias have such reactionary reactions to everything yet never a 'concise' answer to nothing, why Shia mullahs preach against Shiaism, why such terrible akhlaq, and why they don't know about difference of opinion. Inshallah the trend continues, my goal is to have her stop wearing her 'Ya Ali Madad' pin (she says 'Ya Ali Madad' means 'Ya Ali help me by praying for me').
We don't talk about 'controversial' religion often (max 2 times a month) and when we do, it's only for a few mins, but it's affected her alot. Most of the change is recent, so I might be a bit more 'pushy' with her. I've become more lax recently and don't have the same fear as before (online or in person). I haven't told any Sunni friend that I'm raised Shia yet, but some know that my family's 'mixed' and my cousin is a Khamenei lover (don't ask how they know XD). On another note, now that I don't worry about deen, I've become much more open and maybe a little cool
*Didn't realize I'd write so much