As for for 42:23 the word love is used there because it's arguing we obey Mohammad (s) and his family (a) to obey God and hence obedience is not even to Mohammad (s), but rather it's really to God while we honor and recognize them as the means, and so all God is really asking regarding them is to recognize and love them for who they are. This is just one verse 42:23 there are many other verses that are clear as well.
And it means the reward disbelievers would accuse Mohammad (s) if he is false, is just recognize who he is and who his family is if it's true and appreciating them as means to God while the true submission is to God as it's nothing but taking a path towards God (25:57).
And the word includes affection and so can't be towards an abstract concept like closeness or kinship, it is defined to be towards sentient beings and includes a high amount of affection towards the object of love. You can only have affection to real beings, and so Qurba has been that clear in that verse all this time.
And I've shown clearly the link between 4:54 and 4:59 for ten years now, but you guys are in denial.
And I've shown the context of "of them" to be servants in 35:32, by the preceding verse saying "and God with respect to his servants is seeing aware" as well how God has used the word chosen through out Quran.
And Quran talks about past chosen families to prepare for Mohammad's (s) family, but you pay no attention.
I've been speaking truth.