السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
That's why I said ignore him and have the conversation with me. I personally find it very strange that the Ja'fari Madhhab promotes Mut'ah as such a virtuous deed and yet, discussions about it result in a very defensive response. Can you think of any Sunan that are on the level of Mut'ah for the Ja'afri Madhhab that the rest of the Muslims would be so defensive about? Especially when discussing with other Muslims?
If one asks for the intention and purpose of 'to get to know' like yourself then one can tell and explain. If the intention and purpose is to attack and undermine only then you will see the defensive side, not against Mut'ah but the one who is attacking.
Anyways, lets start off with my understanding of Mut'ah. Marriage is of two kinds, temporary and permanent. You either engage in a full time/permanent martial contract/agreement which is known as Nikah or a part time/temporary martial contract/agreement which is known as Mut'ah.
Both, Nikah and Mut'ah, have rules and regulations and there are circumstances attached to them. There is also a procedure/method concerning both. I believe that both were a common practice during the Prophet's (s) time and are according to Qoran and Sunah. But this will require evidence.
But first we need to understand by getting to know. Agreeing and accepting something is a later stage or you can say are different. If you understand something doesn't necessarily mean you accept and agree. Nikah is common and known so the issue is about Mut'ah.
A few questions first. Once you hit puberty, a girl starts to turn into a woman and a boy into a man. You have sexual desire which kicks in and grows. This is to do with nature and comes natural. Sexual desire or sexual appetite is based on what your body needs. It's a necessity of the body be it human or animal.
Now a general question how does one full fill this need? Yes, patience and control does play a major factor in all areas and parts of life. But as you grow older and time goes by how does one full fill this need? Your partner has past away and one has become a widow/widower, When it comes to your Sexual desire/appetite how does one full fill this need and you have children from your deceased partner.
I can give you many more examples. There is only one way and that is Nikah/marriage. Hang on and wait a minute, marriage is a serious business. Marriage is not just about full filling Sexual need (appetite/desire). It's about finding the right partner, it's about starting a family, it's about building a house together and turning it into a home, it's about having children, it's about responsibility/commitment etc, it's about going through life and then growing old together.
So my question is, it doesn't matter who you are, what your situation/condition is and what ever the circumstances are, how does one full fill their sexual need (appetite/desire)? Not everyone is ready for marriage and taking on the responsibility and everything else that comes with it.