and i must say i was very dissapointed.It made me believe in the infallible imams more because it felt dissapointing when he spoke about imams( not the ahlulbayt) but i mean other sunni scholars , for which he said 90% dont know how to do proper counseling, it was a counseling session for us,
I haven't heard of any Sunni, who claims to have met 90% of all Sunni Imams/scholars inorder to Judge their counseling capabilities. Which means you approached a wrong person and gathering.
So you can't judge the correctness of a Madhab, by the viewings of some random uninformed people. Just like you cannot judge how good a Ferarri is by looking at a driver who doesn't know how to drive it.
Secondly, I don't think Infallible Shia Imam does the counseling either, for the Shias, that is why you see so many differences and chaos among Shias themselves.
As for counseling, I have seen a number of times Shia sisters seeking the counseling of some Sunni Scholars who are well known in a particular field, and getting benefited from them.
I can share an example wherein a Shia sister was affected through Magic done by some of her in-laws, She attended counseling from various Shia counselors and Shia spiritual healers, but gained no satisfactory benefit from it, and her condition worsened, she tried a Sunni counselor as well who turned out to be a con-man, but she was sincere in her prayer to Allah, hence Allah(swt) helped her in this issue. A Sunni sister who was a co-worker of her, referred her to a genuine Spiritual healer, who by the help of Allah cured her from the magic spell and the problems she was facing due to it.
Anyways, I don't think that the criteria you set is right. I neither think all Shia counselors are good in regards to issues about Kids, nor all are bad, same goes for Sunnis. So, it shouldn't be your criteria to judge which Mahdhab is upon truth. Moreover, I believe this issue of counseling is not restricted to Sunni or Shia, but there can be good counselors amongst other religions as well, like Christians counselors etc.
As for the reason why Sunni Madhab is more worthy to be considered as the Saved sect, then you can refer to this article:
http://www.twelvershia.net/2016/11/10/12-reasons-leave-shiasm/